Healing the Emotional Body
Don Miguel Ruiz said in his book The Mastery of Love: “to heal the emotional body, we need to open the wounds and clean the wounds, use some medicine, and keep the wounds clean until they heal. How are we going to open the wounds? We are going to use the truth as a scalpel to open the wounds. Two thousands years ago, one of the greatest Master told us, ‘And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
“The truth is like a scalpel because it is painful to open our wounds and uncover all of the lies. The wounds in our emotional body are covered by denial system, the system of lies we have created to protect those wounds. When we look at our wounds with eyes of truth, we can finally heal these wounds.”
Ultimately - what we want is to release ourselves from our emotional cage. Healing requires us to understand three “simple” points: the truth, forgiveness, and self-love. These three keys to heal the mind were given to us by Jesus, but he is not the only one who taught us how to heal. Buddha did the same; Krishna did the same.
Truth
To face the truth, we first need to understand what is the truth - “the truth is relative in this world; it’s changing all the time because we live in a world of illusions. What is true right now is not true later. Then it could be true again. The truth in hell could also be just another concept, another lie that can be used against you. Our denial system is so powerful and strong that it becomes very complicated. There are truths covering lies, and lies covering truth.”
There are two rules to see through to the truth: don't believe in yourself, and don’t believe anyone else. Because we are lying all the time - to ourselves and others. “Our lies need our support. Thus we create a lie to support the first lie, another lie to support that lie, and more lies to support all of those lies. We create a big structure of lies”. As for my personal struggle, there is no need to even ask for clarity, because there isn’t a good one. I will end up being more confused with more lies. When we experience trauma, the injustice creates a strong emotional wound and a lot of emotional poison that could take years of therapy to be released. But this truth that you believe which hurt you so badly is no longer true, right now, in this moment. Even if it was true, it doesn’t mean that now it is true. The truth is that: yes, you were hurt, but it is no longer true that you must suffer from this experience. That is a choice.
Forgiveness
“When we are willing to see with eyes of truth, we uncover some of the lies and open the wounds. Still, there is the poison inside the wounds. Once we open the wounds, we are going to clean the wounds of all the poison. How are we going to do this? Forgiveness.”
“You must forgive those who hurt you, even if whatever they did to you is unforgivable in your mind. you will forgive them not because they deserve to be forgiven, but because you don’t want to suffer and hurt yourself every time you remember what they did to you.”
“Releasing your emotions is only a temporary solution. it may release some poison to make you feel better for a while, but it does not heal the wound. The only way to heal your wounds is through forgiveness.”
“Your cannot forgive because you learned not to forgive”. Because “our personal importance grows when we don’t forgive. The real problem is pride. Because of pride, because of honor, we add more fire to the injustice to remind ourselves that we cannot forgive.”
Forgiveness has been a real challenge for me, and it was hard to understand when people said to me “don’t take it personally, it has nothing to do with you.” But remember? Everyone dreams their own dreams. “The words and actions that hurt you are merely a reaction to the demons in that person’s own mind. He is dreaming in hell, and you are a secondary character in his dream. Nothing anyone else does is because of you. Once you have this awareness, and you do not take it personally, compassion and understanding will lead you to forgiveness.”
“Start working on forgiveness; start practicing forgiveness. It will be difficult at first, but then it just become a habit”.
Self-Love
“Once we have cleaned the wounds, we are going to use a powerful medicine to accelerate the process of healing: It is Love. Love is the medicine that accelerates the process of healing. There is no other medicine but unconditional love. Not: I love you if, or I love myself if. There is no if. There is no justification. There is no explanation. It is just to love. Love yourself, love your neighbor, and love your enemies. This is simple, common sense, but we cannot love others until we love ourselves. That is why we must begin with self-love.”
I am thankful for the pain that I am going through as a motivation to grow.
Merry Christmas to me and all my love ones x